Women do not have it easy in the dating realm. There is a lot that can go wrong and often the repercussions are much, much worse than what a male would need to deal with. This is a skill. It's something you can become better at and hopefully the following advice and ideas will help you much better understand how to approach dating and dealing with men.
First of all, don't put too much pressure on him. Don't treat him like he should be some perfect knight or gentlemen here to sweep you off your feet. Although that might be ok for fairy tales, this is the real world. Lower your standards a bit and don't put to much pressure on him.
Throw out the whole idea of fashionably late. There is no such thing. Try to be as timely as possible. It certainly will put strain on your guy and make him more uncomfortable than usual. Especially if where and how he's waiting isn't the nicest of situations. I've heard stories of guys being cornered by the parents while his lady was getting ready for 30 minutes in her upstairs bedroom. Don't do that! Ok, I confess, that was me. Very uncomfortable and the relationship didn't last long.
Be careful and know what's going on around you. Certainly don't get wasted on Tequila and find yourself open to some real, unwanted, problems. If he is acting really strange, looking at you odd or touching you in ways you don't appreciate, find a way to keep your distance and end the date early if it gets really bad. And make sure you have people around you in a public setting if you know little to nothing about this guy.
The date went well! Well, then the phone call is next. But you don't have to wait for him to call you for days on end. He might just be too nervous. Guys get nervous. I remember times in the past when I'd stare at the phone for hours. I'd pick it up start dialing and hang up a dozen times before I went through with it. Once you do call him, if you had a good date, hopefully he'll pick up on that you are interested and will ask you out again.
Dress up nice, but be yourself. Don't over do it. If he met you in your average, every day state and the next thing he sees is an inch thick, made up face with bright red lipstick, you might be in for a surprise. He may hate it! Not all guys want to necessarily date a woman that looks like that. Be yourself and keep it mellow. Look nice, look beautiful, but focus more on words and actions. That's what will get him.
Do your homework if you can. Find out a bit about him or pay attention to your phone conversations before your date. Be prepared to ask him more about the things he does. Guys don't mind talking about themselves. Hopefully he'll be interested in you and want to focus on learning more about you, but you should be the same way. First dates especially are the most important first impression and will set the pace as to whether this should continue.
The first date should be like a sneak peek of the real you. Each date afterwards should build on that and you can open up more and more to him as he gets to know you and you get to know him.
During the date if anything comes up that you don't agree with or have a problem with, do your best to just make it through the date without making a big deal about it during. Certainly don't embarrass him or make a big scene in front of others. If you had a big problem, bring it up to him after the date; on the phone or whatever.
The most important thing about dating is that you should have fun, be relaxed and be yourself. That's what it all boils down to. You don't want to waste each others time by being fake or with hidden agendas. Dating is about one thing. Find the right person to have a long term, maybe lifetime relationship with.
Throw out the whole idea of fashionably late. There is no such thing. Try to be as timely as possible. It certainly will put strain on your guy and make him more uncomfortable than usual. Especially if where and how he's waiting isn't the nicest of situations. I've heard stories of guys being cornered by the parents while his lady was getting ready for 30 minutes in her upstairs bedroom. Don't do that! Ok, I confess, that was me. Very uncomfortable and the relationship didn't last long.
Be careful and know what's going on around you. Certainly don't get wasted on Tequila and find yourself open to some real, unwanted, problems. If he is acting really strange, looking at you odd or touching you in ways you don't appreciate, find a way to keep your distance and end the date early if it gets really bad. And make sure you have people around you in a public setting if you know little to nothing about this guy.
The date went well! Well, then the phone call is next. But you don't have to wait for him to call you for days on end. He might just be too nervous. Guys get nervous. I remember times in the past when I'd stare at the phone for hours. I'd pick it up start dialing and hang up a dozen times before I went through with it. Once you do call him, if you had a good date, hopefully he'll pick up on that you are interested and will ask you out again.
Dress up nice, but be yourself. Don't over do it. If he met you in your average, every day state and the next thing he sees is an inch thick, made up face with bright red lipstick, you might be in for a surprise. He may hate it! Not all guys want to necessarily date a woman that looks like that. Be yourself and keep it mellow. Look nice, look beautiful, but focus more on words and actions. That's what will get him.
Do your homework if you can. Find out a bit about him or pay attention to your phone conversations before your date. Be prepared to ask him more about the things he does. Guys don't mind talking about themselves. Hopefully he'll be interested in you and want to focus on learning more about you, but you should be the same way. First dates especially are the most important first impression and will set the pace as to whether this should continue.
The first date should be like a sneak peek of the real you. Each date afterwards should build on that and you can open up more and more to him as he gets to know you and you get to know him.
During the date if anything comes up that you don't agree with or have a problem with, do your best to just make it through the date without making a big deal about it during. Certainly don't embarrass him or make a big scene in front of others. If you had a big problem, bring it up to him after the date; on the phone or whatever.
The most important thing about dating is that you should have fun, be relaxed and be yourself. That's what it all boils down to. You don't want to waste each others time by being fake or with hidden agendas. Dating is about one thing. Find the right person to have a long term, maybe lifetime relationship with.
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